Communications Plan

• Discuss with your student how often you want to call, text or FaceTime. It is important to stay connected, but also be understanding of their new demands.

Grades Expectations

• Discuss early and often your expectations regarding grades. Many scholarships require students to maintain a certain GPA, discuss what grades are required to keep that GPA, particularly if they don’t do as well as expected.
• If you want to see your student’s grades at the end of each semester, discuss this with your student and remind them often of your expectations for them and the agreements you have made.

Finances

• Discuss the finances of paying for college. Your student needs to understand the value of their education and what expectations you might have for them to assist in covering costs, including books, meals, and spending money.
• If your student has a scholarship and is unable to maintain the required GPA, like the HOPE Scholarship, it is important to discuss with students who would be responsible for filling in the financial gap.

Self-Management

• Discuss with your student the day-to-day activities that they will need to manage on their own like laundry, preparing or managing meals, paying bills and straitening up before things get too messy. Students will have more freedom in college and will have to learn to manage themselves in the new environment.

Grit and Resiliency

• College is filled with great times, but students will also encounter challenging times. Whether it is a bad grade on an assignment, an argument with a roommate or new friend or a brush off from romantic interest, students need to be able to stick with things when they are hard. Help your student to understand that these things might happen and help them to identify coping mechanisms.

When to Ask for Help

• Discuss with your student that it is ok to ask for help. College is different than high school and your student will be challenged in new ways. It is important for them to be open to the help that is available, like Tutoring @ ESP, the Counseling Center, Writing Center and their advisors and faculty members. We are all here to help your student and want to see them succeed!

Suggested Reading

Permission to grieve when your children go away to college
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Advice for first-fime college parents: Do not try this at home
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All the wrong words to say at college drop off
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9 tips on how to be a good college parent
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To my family when I come home
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Healthy Kids: Preparing your teen for college life
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The 7 upsides to sending your last kid off to college
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How to raise successful kids - without overparenting
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Helping with homesickness
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